Dating Women and Dating Games, Part 12 4


Dating is certainly adventurous, especially when meeting potential partners online. Let me make a slight change to the Forrest Gump quote: “[Online Dating] is like a box of chocolates. You never know what you’re gonna get.”

 

Although I’ve been teased this can apply to dating women too with the way my luck has been.

 

We’re going to move from the woman who claimed she wasn’t into playing games (http://blogs.davelozinski.com/dating/dating-women-dating-games-part-11) to another woman told me:

 

“I’m getting strange vibes from you now”

 

A few years ago this was a more typical scenario. “Bianca” sent me a kiss from the website RSVP.com.au expressing her interest. I was single, and as such, I had a profile there being interested in dating women.

 

After exchanging a few emails, we took it to the “next level” by adding each other as friends on Facebook.

 

Oooooooo… big scary step. Progressing the potential relationship before having met.

 

Anyway, this was done with the intention of meeting because I’m not interested in just upping someone’s “friend count”.
Dating women and dating games, part 12

 

Lunch it is!

We set a time and date to get together in early December over lunch.

 

3 hours before (does this sound familiar?) she texts me to say she’s not feeling well and is going to the hospital.

 

Fair enough.

 

I saw later she had updated her Facebook status to include this, and didn’t think much of it.

 

Thankfully, she was in and out, went back for a few tests, everything checked out fine.

 

Where’s the courtesy?

I sent a few messages asking how she was doing, but 4 weeks go by and not a word from her. Facebook was telling a different story. She was constantly in my news feed: going out with friends, attending functions/parties, and so on.

 

To me, that says she’s not interested in meeting, so I removed her as a Facebook “friend”.

 

Am I out of line here? If you cancel on someone, what do you think you should do? Reschedule? Or at least keep in communication until you can reschedule?

 

That’s what I think.

 

My Defriending Got Her Attention

A week later I received a friend request from her. I accepted, sending her a message explaining how I felt — that not making any effort to respond to my messages says, “not interested”, even in friendship.

 

Bianca responded back that she thought the same thing of me as well.

 

What the?!

She cancelled the date.

 

She didn’t respond to any of my follow up messages.

 

She made no obvious effort to contact me.

 

Now she was apparently turning this back on me.

 

Holiday wreathe and the holiday spirit.

At least I had my holiday cheer on.

Insert Eye Roll

 

I didn’t bite at her remarks because I was waiting for…

 

… bingo …

 

…she mentioned about maybe catching up in the new year.

 

Putting It Back On Her

I responded that I’ll be looking forward to catching up in the new year, thinking it would be a lot of fun!

 

I listed a few days I’d be free and concluded by saying I’m leaving the ball in her court to let me know when she’ll have some time since she’s really busy with everything that she had going on (Xmas parties, New Year’s celebrations, family visits, etc).

 

Nothing wrong with that, right?

 

Bianca Responded

She said she’s “getting a weird vibe from me now.”

 

I thought my message was kosher. I was genuinely interested.

 

I never heard anything further.

 

I gave her a week before defriending her on Facebook.

 

Again.

 

Your Turn!

What do you think of the way I handled things with Bianca?

 

  • Chloe

    Your commentary on dating in general is interesting and considered. It is clear you want to experience a deep soulmate connection as do most people but I feel the need to bring to your attention something you may have never previously considered.

    You have an uphill battle on your hands. The Law of Attraction can only do so much for you. You are a Sagittarius Rat and this astrological combination is notorious for never finding “The One”. Flings and casual relationships are not a problem for you but marriage for your particular Astro profile is oftentimes elusive. It’s the hand you have been dealt in this lifetime.

    Research this further if you wish. Blessings and safe travels on your soul’s journey.

    • David Lozinski

      Well so much for a Rat being the luckiest sign in the Chinese zodiac. You’re right in that I haven’t considered my Zodiac-cross-Chinese sign implications. Although I did do some Googling and haven’t found one website that says a Sagittarian Rat (or any other combination from the two zodiac combinations) is notorious for never finding “the one” (in so many words). Are you able to provide a source for your information?

      • Chloe

        I read that information in my notes (yes, I am studying Astrology in my spare time under the guidance of an experienced Astrologer so the information I have is more layered than most cookie cutter explanations found online or in general interest books).

        I came across your blog by accident and found your take on dating (and your subsequent disasters) comical but also kind of sad. I was curious to know if maybe Astrology might provide a better insight into why disappointing dating experiences keep happening to you.

        I googled your name, found your other website that stated your two signs, looked this up in my books and voila! It made sense to me re why this keeps happening. The information didn’t provide any specific advice as to how you can remedy your situation. Just keep doing what you’re doing because it sounds like you are maximising every opportunity you have to meet new people and that’s a good thing.

        By the way, I hope I didn’t make you feel like Sagittarius Rat is cursed. They’re not. Every combination of signs have their own unique challenges. We’re never given anything we can’t handle or overcome. Sometimes it just helps to know what we’re dealing with.

        Good Luck.

  • Lorena

    The planet and star alignments are powerful forces that confirm, guide and inform us in many ways, this is part of the universe’s structure. The Law of Attraction balances perfectly with the universe & many other factors in our lives. We receive what we give. A prediction based on the Chinese and zodiac signs regarding “never finding the one” can be interpreted in different ways. We, mankind as individuals, are to “become” the one, not find the one. Is there a “one”? I tend to think not. That doesn’t mean some of us won’t have life partners, rather each individuals path is uniquely its own. I relish in the idea of creating a happy life. Some people are in our lives momentarily, some for a season, some much longer. Every day has choices in it. The choice for me is being happy every day with or without a partner. Another possibility is perhaps marriage is not supposed to be the objective? In my world I promise today not forever. Too many people take each other for granted. I don’t think any person can wisely say this is the hand that has been dealt to anyone for that is yet to be seen and not one single person or source knows the future in its entirety. That’s impossible, to many specific details regarding an individual’s personal life. The unknown, that only the universe or God comprehend. We as people only know in part, the future unfolds in a time frame all its own with many factors impacting it. The fulfillment of David’s path will unfold before him! How exciting is that! 🙂