Dating Women and Dating Games, Part 03 6


Dating Women and Dating Games

This is the third installment chronicling my experiences on dating women and dating games. Here is Part 02 if you missed it.

This chapter, “So are we going on a second date or not?”, involved meeting someone through someone. I had written an article in the local paper about the dating scene from a man’s point of view.

One respondent said she’d like to set me up with one of her friends, “Narelle”. She told me Narelle was a cool person with a great, all around personality.

Why not eh?

The Date

I received Narelle’s contact information and started exchanging emails with her. Before I knew it, I was meeting Narelle on a Wednesday night. She was taking public transport into the city, so I met her at the train station. We walked to a pub, and shared a few drinks and nibbles before having an easy conversation over dinner.

90 minutes later, I offered to walk Narelle back to the train station, showing her a few sights within the city along the way before heading home myself.

 

Not Even 24 Hours Later

An emergency came up with work early the following morning. I was so busy with it I didn’t have time to even check my email or think about calling anyone.

Around 2pm, my phone beeps letting me know a text message came in from Narelle; I quickly read it.

Now, a question I pose to my readers. You have a nice date with someone. What kind of follow up message would you expect? Something along the lines of, “I had a great time last night, and look forward to catching up again soon.” Or even, “Hi, how’s your day going?”

Dating Women and Dating Games, Part 03
This is the one I received from Narelle verbatim:

“So are we going on a second date or not?”

Smooth huh?

 

But Wait

15 minutes later, I received a second message asking the same thing. If the first one didn’t put me off, the second one definitely was.

Still having to deal with the emergency at work, I didn’t even consider crafting some sort of reply.

 

60 Minutes After That

I receive another text message saying she didn’t think our lifestyles were compatible.

Seriously?

Okay Dave. Keep cool. Stay focused on work. Deep breath. Write her an email when you get home.

 

She Already Sent Me One!

Before going any further, take 3 guesses to what the email was about.

Ready?

Her message detailed things she didn’t like that I did on the date.

We’re not talking about things like I brought up an ex-girlfriend, or chewed with my mouth open.

Those I could understand. However, her list included stuff like the following:

  1. I didn’t drink enough. Apparently, my choice of having soda and water with my meal wasn’t good enough. It should have been wine and/or beer even though I was driving home.
  2. During our meal she asked me if I’ve been on many dates. I responded that I’ve met some nice women since relocating. According to her, that’s inappropriate to say because, “even though it may not be the case, everyone likes to feel like they’re your only date.” My friends and I have had debates as to why she would even ask that question if she wouldn’t like any answer except one where I would have to lie and say zero.

She concluded the message by saying that with her and her girlfriends, they always practice the common courtesy of letting people know if they intend to be seen again so people aren’t left wondering.

Then she finished with, “Maybe you need reminding of what it feels like to be left wondering…”

 

Holy Crazy-Lady Batman!

Let’s recount now. Within the span of 24 hours from when I saw her off:

  1. She sent two text messages wanting to know if we were going out again
  2. Sent a third message saying our life styles aren’t compatible
  3. Wrote an email explaining what I did wrong on our first and only date

In the nicest of ways, I wrote an email trying to explain to her that no, I don’t need to know what it’s like to be left wondering, that I was extremely busy at work because of an emergency, and didn’t think anyone required some sort of formal notification within 24 hours if there was going to be another date. I concluded the message by thanking her for the time out and wishing her well on her search.

Narelle wrote back saying, “My my my… getting defensive aren’t we?”

D-E-L-E-T-E-D.

At least Batman got to deal with the sexy cat-woman.

Am I too picky? Has anyone else experienced similar dating games from women (or men)? What would you have done after receiving those text messages and that first date analysis?

Leave your comments below! I promise I won’t get “too defensive”. 🙂

 

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  • Asha

    The universe did you a favor! Lol! What a crazy chick.

    As far as dating games go, I keep meeting men who pose as a guy who is interested in a relationship, only to turn around and reveal that they’re only interested in sex.

    In this scenario, I would have done the same thing. What happened to the two day rule?!

    I went on a really comical date with a guy who lets say wasn’t exactly honest about his body type. He told me I was gorgeous and seemed pretty nice so I thought, eh, why not? When I opened the car door to hop in the car and got a good glance at him, I was shocked and it set a very awkward tone for the rest of the date. He couldn’t fit into the booth they placed us at, he was pressuring me to drink. About 4-5 days post date, I was honest and said I didn’t feel any chemistry there. He responds by saying he wasn’t attracted to me anyways. Ha!

    • David Lozinski

      I keep meeting men who pose as a guy who is interested in a relationship, only to turn around and reveal that they’re only interested in sex.

      This seems to be a common issue I hear from a lot of women when discussing dating tales. It doesn’t bode well for the sincere gents out there.

      What happened to the two day rule?!

      I don’t necessarily agree with such “rules” per se. But seriously… it would have been better for her to have sent a more classy, casual message instead of just that one-liner asking if we’re going out again or not. Ladies, don’t ever do what this woman did! 🙂

      I went on a really comical date with a guy who lets say wasn’t exactly honest about his body type. He told me I was gorgeous and seemed pretty nice so I thought, eh, why not? When I opened the car door to hop in the car and got a good glance at him, I was shocked and it set a very awkward tone for the rest of the date.

      Oh no! Not you too! I also had such a dating experience and is the topic of a future blog post. In your situation I was surprised as well that he didn’t even get out of the car when he came by to pick you up? Guys, where’s the chivalry?

      At least you were honest about everything afterwards and told him it just wasn’t clicking for you. That’s demonstrates a lot about your character. 🙂

  • Emma

    ROFL! Isn’t it obvious Dave!? If you are seriously looking for a girlfriend you need to prioritise correctly!

    First and foremost is the girl (even if you barely know her!). Your livelihood is not important in any way shape or form (I met a young lady recently who was put out that her now ex boyfriend chose his job over her, she wasn’t impressed).

    I blame Hollywood and Disney for these magical ideals that women have come up with when it comes to love and relationships. It is no longer enough that you open doors for her, or might pay for the date, or that you even spend quality time (discussing whatever pathetic reality tv show she is into that week), you must also drop everything to respond to her inane attention seeking texts and/or emails.

    I don’t know how lesbians do it, 2 women in one relationship, oh that would be torture! But I guess they know what to expect!! 😉

    I really shouldn’t talk I am female and potentially just as psycho, I hope I’m not but I’m guessing it is possible. After all I’m still single, I must be doing something wrong! 😀

  • MB

    I appreciate what you do and love your stuff. I agree a whole lot with the things you write about. I’d definitely meet up with someone like you for fun :). I would have at least thanked you for showing up, going out to eat, and simply spending time together. Maybe some ppl are so used to dating they forget to appreciate the little things.

    • Dave

      “I’d definitely meet up with someone like you for fun :)”

      Well, if you ever make it over, you know how to contact me.

  • Lailahj

    Similar story – I went out on a date, and the next day – during work hours – the guy was “checking up” on me to see if I was ok. When I didn’t answer (again, working) he got very put out. I finally told him I had lived my whole life without his assistance, and could go a bit longer, and that he obviously had chosen out of dating me, because he could not respect my boundaries.